A few weeks ago I lost a patient in her late thirties to a nasty disease. It was a sudden death and I never imagined getting a call from her mother to inform us of the news. Undoubtedly it was horrible for myself and the whole team to hear.
What was also harrowing was that her family knew her wishes if she were to die. But that cannot happen because she never made a will. So in the midst of grief her family are having to battle it out to ensure their daughter's wishes are heard, but legally her requests don't exist. I really cannot imagine how hard this must be to deal with!!! And it got me thinking.
I need to make my will.
Even though I don't feel like I have a lot to my name there are certain things I want to happen if I were to suddenly pass away. I have never really discussed with my family what funeral I would like, how I would like to be buried and organ donation etc. They are tough questions I have had to ask myself but they need answers because I'd hate to think of the hassle my family would have to go through if I didn't - legally - have a response to them.
Also here in the UK if you don't have a will then the government are quite within their right to take your money and assets. And I do not want that to happen! I want to ensure my loved ones inherit what I have worked hard for and enjoy the things in life I may not be able to. I think it's a shame that will making isn't heavily regulated because it helps prevent so much like family squabbles, appoints trustees, ensures your money/assets go to individuals, charities etc that you want them to go to. If you die with no will, the law decides all that, not you. At present 30 million people in the UK, over the age of 21, do not have a will. I think that's sad but not surprising.
It's these people that I want to carry out my last requests, not the government who don't know me.
So do you have a will? If not, really think hard about getting one drawn up. If you do not know how to go about it then you just need to instruct a will writer to act on your behalf. In total it has cost me £100 to have one drawn up which is minor in comparison to heartache. Once it's done you can update it anytime and you'll have peace of mind, that even in death, your wishes are being heard.