Sunday, 30 March 2014

My Mum

I have been inspired to write this tribute to my Mum on Mothers Day, since this week I felt the roles were reversed. I have cared for, worried, fretted and probably annoyed my mum more this week than in my whole life. She was taken very poorly this week and is now on the mend. It's the most ill I have seen her and the most worried I have been to.

And then I realised that this is how my mum feels x 4! All the time. How do mums do it? The mother-daughter relationship is so important. I think it helps us to celebrate being a woman and what we're designed to give to our or future children.

Is it a hard relationship at times? Definitely!

Is it one of the most important relationships you could have in your life? You bet it is!

There are times my mum drives me crazy. I wouldn't go as far to say she is my best friend (because in my eyes you can't be "friends" with a parent) but she is my favourite person. I was formed and developed in her womb so to me there is literally no closer relationship I could have in my life.

There are so many things I could write now to say how bloody amazing my mum is. Isn't every person's mum the best in the world? I totally agree with that. Today I want to celebrate some of the gifts given by my mum that at the time weren't so great. As they say it isn't until we learn to love the hard to love parts, do we actually understand what true love is.

Dear Mum,

Thank you for my thunder thighs. I have come to learn that I'll never have the skinny legs I long for or be able to look good in hot pants/shorts. But like you have said to me in the least I have a softer landing for when I fall! So thank you for my wonderfully wobbly thighs.

Thank you for your Muttley laugh. I remember when I was younger how I used to roll my eyes because when you laughed your face screwed up like you were constipated. I now have the exact same laugh and if I look like I need a poo? Who cares! I am glad it has never changed.

Thank you for your matter of fact honesty. I so desperately wanted you to shut up when I was a kid. There were many times in the playground and at school events where I just wanted you to lie. 'Yes Rebecca never leaves her homework to the last minute' would have been a great one for parents evening! Thank you for not being like the other mothers who made out their children were perfect. You have always accepted we aren't and it taught me in the long run that honesty earns respect.

Thank you for being my biggest fan and sticking up for us. I'll never forget when the school board wouldn't statement Philip for his dyslexia. You marched into his classroom and told the teacher that all 7 year old should know their ABC's and Philip couldn't. You put her in her place and stuck up for your son. Philip can now do his ABC's and so much more if it wasn't for your determination to get him the right education! It's your strength of character that has allowed me to trust myself and my instincts.

I guess now is as good as any time to thank you for my feet big foot! I wanted the world to swallow me up when I was a kid at ballet. I swear my feet were double the size of all the dainty ones doing pirouettes around me. And even though now I am buying size 7 shoes I guess I am more grounded. So yeah...thank you large, well grounded, firmly stuck to the floor feet!

And lastly thank you for being repetitive. I remember all those term time Sundays essay writing and crying about how I couldn't do my degree because it was so much tougher than I EVER imagined. You would always say 'all you can do is your best' and I used to curse when you weren't looking. It made my blood boil because it didn't fix anything at that moment. But now the essays are over (I hope!) and I am in a career I love. You're right...and I don't hate to say it...all you can do is your best and your best is always good enough.

Thank you for being wonderful and for being my true love. For letting me be your not so perfect daughter and my perfect mum. Thank you for being all of you and giving me the opportunity to be all of me.

Happy Mother's day, Mum


Callie Nicole said...

This is so sweet! It's so true how your perspective can change on some of those things you used to dislike too.

Mary said...

What a wonderful post for your mom! It's not easy being a mom!!!

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