Monday, 24 June 2013

Simon and I - Week 8

Week 8 has arrived and can't believe there's only 4 weeks until this series ends. Simon really likes seeing these posts! I am taking part in Callie's 'Derek and me' series which you can check out here.

Week 8 - What is your favourite physical feature about them and why.

I have been tossing between bum and eyes but obviously his eyes win hands down. As much as I love his pert bottom. I love Simon's eyes! He has beautiful hazel eyes but what I love is in the sunlight they almost go this amber colour like glass. In pictures his eyes light up his face and I just love looking at them. When we have kids I hope they have his eye colour. They're his most distinguishing feature and I wouldn't change them for the world.

Simon's birthday. September 17th 2012.

Thursday, 20 June 2013

Back from Florida!

I had a wonderful time in Florida! We just arrived back this morning and boy are we tired. It's not really the 5 hour time difference, because to me it isn't that bad, but we had an overnight flight that we just did not sleep a wink on.

Anyway I will blog more about our travels to the sunshine state over the next week or so. It was packed full of adventures, memories, great weather and a trip I will not forget about in a hurry! Here is a glimpse below.

Disneyworld, Orlando.

Florida Keys.

Miami Beach.

Marlins vs Cardinals - my first baseball game.

Massive Margarita on Ocean Dr, Miami.

At the moment I am missing three things: Sunshine, Waffle cones and air con.

Monday, 17 June 2013

Simon and I - Week 7

Week 7 this week and it's time to talk about our spoken words. I am taking part in Callie's 'Derek and me' series which you can check out here.

Week 7 - What would you love to hear your spouse to say to you? What would your spouse love to hear you say to them?

This is tough, not because I don't want to upset Simon but because there isn't really a big thing I would want Simon to say to me. The only thing that comes to mind is I would like Simon to say 'I'll take care of it'. I do a lot more of the planning and sorting out of things like birthday presents, sending cards, remembering dates, buying food for us to cook with, posting things off etc. It would be nice for him to say 'you know what Becs? Let me take care of that for you' and have a break from it. In the future I would like a proposal said to me and he knows thats, just not yet.

As for Simon? I bet he would love for me to say it's my turn to drive and saying 'I do' at the alter! I guess we have a lot of jokey things between us. I think Simon would like me to say 'Thank you' more. It isn't that I am not appreciative for what he does but I don't really say thank you for the small things like him cleaning up, doing the washing, taking the recycling outside for me. He is really good at taking care to the smaller details which I could say thank you for more often.

We always say I love you to each other, every day. 
Photo taken February 2013.

Monday, 10 June 2013

Simon and I - Week 6

Week 6 has arrived and this means I am halfway through the series. I am taking part in Callie's 'Derek and me' series which you can check out here.

Week 6 - How has your relationship changed over time.

Our relationship has changed quite a fair bit. Okay we haven't reached the big milestones of change like living together, marriage or becoming parents. However, it has changed in small ways and the decisions we have made. Simon and I decided quite early on that we wanted to live together but wanted to be in the position to buy not rent. We started saving for a property from about 6 months into our relationship which I think is quite a dedicated commitment. We have to be money savvy and cautious of how we spend our earnings. 

Also, 9 months into our relationship Simon's Dad decided to leave the family and this had serious emotional set backs. I had to be there for Simon and his family in a way I had never been there before. It was all about them and being there for them. It took quite a toll on us all but it didn't break us and we came out a lot stronger because of it. Even though it all resolved towards the end of last year and Simons parents are back together there is definitely a shift in the family dynamic. This we had to get used to. We have both started new jobs during the course of our relationship which changed our hours and has limited our days off together. We have to be imaginative with how we spend our time and more present in each others lives.

Our relationship has also changed in remarkable ways. I trust and love Simon more the longer we are together. I understand that relationships are work, but it really is the best kind of work!

Mostly we're just they're for each other more each day. Simon's birthday - September 2012.

Thursday, 6 June 2013

Simon and I - Week 5

Nearly halfway through my 'Simon and I' series (based on a list of questions from Callie's blog). It is certainly fun and nostalgic to reflect on our relationship over the last 17 months!

Week 5 - What is your favourite memory with your spouse.

Oh my this is so hard that I simply can't whittle down to just the one memory. I can't choose between these two, they're two memories I'll keep with me for a very very long time.

#1 Cornwall
Our first trip away together will always hold a special place in my heart. We went to Cornwall for a long weekend away in the south west of England. It was the first time we had spent multiple days together and I loved every second. It was nice to be together properly without worrying what shift I was on or which golf club he had to be working at. I'll never forget on our last night he took me out for a lovely meal. It was pouring with rain and we had to run through the biggest puddles to get to the restaurant in Padstow. When we got back to the car afterwards he gave me the most beautiful necklace as a present. I love wearing it.

#2 Coming back from Australia.
During our relationship Simon has had to take me to the airport 3 times where I went on trips away without him. They were to Barcelona, California and more recently Australia. Australia was really tough because I was away for 3 weeks in a time zone where when I was awake, he was asleep! We communicated through a couple of texts a day but it was not easy. As much fun as I had down under, I missed my boyfriend! I will never ever forget walking through arrivals on my return home and seeing his face light up. I ran up to him so fast and his face had relief written all over it, due to the fact I was home. The first words he said were "I have my best friend back" and I will never forget them.

Wednesday, 5 June 2013

Florida here we come!

We booked our trip to Florida on April 29th last year (my nephew's birthday, I knew it would be a good day that day!) At the time it seemed like ages away and I cannot believe that 14 months later we are finally going!

This is my last BIG holiday for a while. I have enjoyed some amazing trips like NYC, California and Australia over the past 2 years. Florida seems like an awesome way to end that string of holidays before I start venturing into more adult things like house buying/decorating and mortgages. I still have big holidays planned in my heart but they will be shelved for a bit.

We have so many exciting things planned for our trip away that I still can't believe we will pack it all in. I want to share our plans with you all so you can keeps tabs of where we are, what we're up to and when.

June 5th to June 12th - We will be in Orlando, Florida. We have passes to both Disneyworld and Universal. Even though we know we won't be able to cover all the parks and their rides in the time we have, it will be a fun taster and hopefully will make us want to return again!

June 12th - We leave early in Orlando and head east to the Kennedy Space Centre (KSC). Simon loves anything to do with space so we feel that we must see it! We have heard mixed reviews but we managed to get a really good deal for the day we are going. Plus, it's on our way to our next stop so it seems logical to stop off at the KSC! We then take a 4 hour car journey down south along the east coast. I'd like to stop off at a couple of beaches along the way - anyone recommend any? I have heard Fort Lauderdale is good so we may stop off for dinner there to re-charge our batteries. It's going to be a long day of driving for Simon.

June 12th - June 15th - MIAMI! We will be getting here quite late following our drive so we don't plan to do anything until the following day. We plan just to relax on South Beach during the day and do some fun things at night. Simon really enjoyed Baseball when he was studying in Atlanta so we would like to watch a Baseball match when we are here. The Miami Marlins will be playing during our stay so hopefully we will see them.

June 15th - We plan to spend time in Miami until mid morning and then leave to visit the Everglades on our way to our final stop. I have heard about the Everglades, but I looked after an American in March and he said that you can't not visit FL without going to the Everglades. We looked up things to do and we decided we'll visit an Alligator park and do an airboat tour of the national park. We'll spend the afternoon here.

June 15th - June 19th - In the evening we hope to reach our final stop of Key Largo in the Florida Keys! This will be the relaxing part of our trip where we plan to do very little than lay by the beach and pool. We will visit other islands in the Keys and we may go to the Dolphin research centre they have there. But it really depends on our funds and how we feel. We want this to be the part of our trip where we have no real plan and just relax. On our last day we return back to Miami airport and take an overnight flight back to the UK.

See you in 2 weeks everyone, I have a lot of memories to make.

Monday, 3 June 2013

Why Christianity confuses me.

This really is not the best title for this post but it's the best I could get out of mind due to it billowing with loads of thoughts. Last week I read my friend Laura Anne's post about her quote of the week. You can check it out here.

But what she said really got me thinking about why I find religion in general quite a confusing topic, (by the way her post was not on the topic of religion, it just drew my mind to it.) As I grew up I guess I was taught that all religions have common values that are shared between the people who believe in it. Christians believe Jesus died on the cross for them. Buddhists believe in reincarnation. Jewish people believe God wants Jews to be his chosen people. I have always looked at religion like that.

But the older I have gotten the more controversial religion or relationships with higher powers has become to me. And that's why I get easily confused and also quite annoyed at times.

The best way to explain it is something that happened a couple of months back. In April the New Zealand government allowed same sex couples to marry. Was I pleased? Yes. As I think if you love someone, despite their sex, you should be able to declare your love through a marriage wherever you choose. I understand that other people do not agree and I have always been okay with that.

Then at work the following day two of my colleagues had a heated debate. They are both Christians, go to church as often as they can and always offer their prayers. They're two of the sweetest people but they believe in different things. Mark believes in same sex marriage. Edna doesn't. But they are both devout Christians, so which one is less of a Christian then?

In my opinion it does not boil down to that but can you see why I felt so confused on the subject? Should they not believe in the same thing and have relatively the same opinion based on what the Bible says? I thought the Bible says that marriage is between a man and a woman. Mark understands that but says it is not for all people. Whereas, Edna said he is not following the word of God by believing it. They also got onto the topic of if there should be female bishops within the Catholic faith. Mark thinks they should stick with tradition and keep it solely male but Edna, being slightly feminist, believes it should be equal and break away from the norm. So who is less of a Christian now? Again, it really doesn't boil down to it. But you can see why people like me, who are atheist, get slightly perplexed by it all.

I have always been interested in what other people believe. I honestly think it is fascinating at how other people incorporate their beliefs into their lives. I sometimes wish I could be like that, but accept quite happily that I don't. I understand that all Christians, Jews, Muslims etc are individual people, with unique opinions. But I guess I grew up thinking, on controversial topics such as same sex marriage and abortion etc, that whatever your faith may be that you believe what your faith puts before you. I work with another girl Natalie, who is an atheist. After Mark and Edna had finished strongly debating the atmosphere was a little tense. She turned round to me and said 'this is why I have no interest in trying to understand other people's beliefs. They say they both have a relationship with God but how can God make them believe different things?' I totally see her point but I also think it is such a shame that she doesn't want to question it. I think it's healthy to.

I guess that's the real world. But does anyone have anything to add? To clarify? I'd love to know if I am totally off point or indeed have a point for others to think about. Please share.

N.B This post is not designed to just be aimed at just Christians. As I am sure there are confusing aspects to any faith but this is just what I have been exposed to. If you want to comment, as I'd love you to! Please do so in a respectful way.

Saturday, 1 June 2013

A must read.

Last night I came in from work so tired from a 14 hour shift. I tried to sleep but my brain was so wired so I flicked on the laptop to peruse the sites I like to check out. I never check out blogger when I am tired because I don't focus on the blog posts properly. But for some reason I just thought I really needed to go on it. I almost had this feeling I was going to really miss out on something if I didn't - strange right?

One of my friend's Laura Anne does a series every week called 'Quote of the Week' - it is one of my favourite things she has ever done on her blog. I love the posts she does and the quotes are some I have never heard before.

This week was my favourite and I urge you to have a read. It made me realise my convictions, how I view certain people and most importantly made me think, really think about how my opinions can affect others.

If there is one thing you do this weekend is check out this post by clicking here. It's made me think about doing a post about how I find religion, especially Christianity, really confusing. Trust me - it's a must read. She was really nervous about posting it due to how honest it is. She had absolutely nothing to be nervous about.

Great job, friend!

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