Saturday, 13 June 2009

another life lost

I think it is pretty fair to say that we have heard and read the sad and beautiful story of Audrey Caroline Smith and Isaac Timothy Delisle. They left this Earth too soon, far too soon. However, their stories that they have so beautifully woven has made me so much more aware...but reality really hit me when I arrived at work today.

Earlier this year a work friend of mine, Imogen, found out she was pregnant. She already has two beautiful girls Tierney and Isla but wanted to round off her bunch in the hope of having a boy due in September. We were all over the moon for her, especially as our other work mate Paul found out he was going to be the baby's Godfather!

Due to my Nursing training I had not been at work for a while and it was my first day back today and I noticed Paul was awfully subdued. Little did I know it was because his Godson had passed away the night before.

On Wednesday Imogen and her husband Andy went for their 20 week scan. Imogen had been saying the baby had been moving around less but as their scan was due this week she didn't worry so much. She was more enamoured with the idea of finding out the sex of her baby - who wouldn't!

The good news: it was a boy! It was what they had hoped.

The sad news: He had spina bifida and trisomy 18 - known as Edwards Syndrome.

After spending all day at the hospital having appointment after appointments on what to do they decided to carry the baby to term. They just hoped for a miracle - it was all they could have hoped for. However, things took another turn...

Yesterday afternoon Imogen had cramping and then her waters broke. She was rushed to hospital and told she had gone into premature labour. When asked if she wanted medication to try and stop the contractions Imogen and Andy refused. They wanted their son to do what he wanted to do. Paul explained to me that Imogen had the beautiful idea that Lockland just couldnt wait any longer to meet them!

At 23.42 on the 12/06/09 baby Lockland Andrew Dunbar was born at 21 weeks and one day into this world. He arrived in a 2 pound 10 ounce handsome body and only lived for about 4 minutes. However, Paul said that when he spoke to Imogen this morning she could not get over how beautiful he was to hold and stare at. She said he had the cutest red birthmark on his bottom and she adored the fact he had thick jet black hair like his Daddy!

I do not have any pictures to show as I only found out a couple of hours ago and this is as much of the events I have gathered. Yet, the fact that he was a little beauty is enough for me to share :-) (all babies are!). Imogen will be undergoing genetic counselling soon and they are currently organising a memorial for him. Lockland's two older sisters have been told that he is walking their pet dog Barney in heaven as no one else could do it.

Paul was just devastated as he told me and he just could not understand why it had happened. Imogen has always said to us that her biggest fear in life is losing her children and that happened last night. I am just so gutted for her and cannot even contemplate what she and Andy are going through.

Imogen and Andy have lost their first son. Tierney and Isla have lost their first brother. Paul has lost his first Godson and the world has lost a 2 pound 10oz angel who will always leave his footprints stamped in this world.

Please join me in sending your thoughts, prayers and wishes to the whole Dunbar family and baby Lockland. We all miss you so much.





13 comments:

Stephanie RN BSN (to be!) said...

I will never understand why beautiful little babies are taken from Earth so soon. However, I will keep Imogen and her family in my prayers.

Brittany said...

How terrible. I for one will never understand why God chooses to take so many precious babies but I trust that his plan is better than ours even when it really, really hurts us. I will be keeping Andy and Imogen in my prayers.

Louise said...

Oh Becca this is awful I just don't get why he has gone far too soon. I love the fact he is walking Barney though :)

As I was reading this the Corinne Bailey Rae song was playing and it was just so fitting for this post.

a sad but loyal read friendy!

love you so much girly x-x-x

Callie Nicole said...

I'll be praying for them - that must be so hard.

Patrice said...

That's so awful! I'm so sad to hear news like this! I will keep your friends in my thoughts & prayers!

Suki said...

I'll keep them in my prayers. He has left far too soon. We won't understand it, why those things happen.

Mary said...

So incredibly sad! I could never imagine!

she has a name said...

My sister is 19 weeks pregnant and that is just so unbelieveably sad. My thoughts and love to your friend and her family. The explanation that he is walking the dog is wonderfully beautiful, a lovely way to break the awful news. x

Shannon said...

I cannot even imagine what they must be feeling. They're definitely in my thoughts.

Librarian or Teacher said...

It's not an easy thing to understand. I can't seem to wrap my mind around why stuff like this happens to good people. I will be praying for their comfort.

WindyBug said...

Gosh that's hard to hear. Things happen for a reason, and it's good they got to meet him first.

Candy Hart said...

What an awful tragedy. I am glad that they did get to meet him and spend even just a few minutes with him. Maybe it just wasnt his time to be here yet.

Janet said...

How very sad! My prayers and thoughts are with this family.

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