Thursday, 30 April 2009

A Friend Out of the Ordinary.

This may come as a suprise to you but I am very picky about who I befriend. I am 'safe'. I am comforted by who I choose to spend my time with. I hear everyday of stories where friends have stabbed, shot or beaten each other. I have seen people encourage their 'friends' to take drugs, smoke all kind of nasty things and drive under the influence. It's okay though right? Because they are friends. Wrong. I am quite judgemental when it comes to people like these. Drug addicts, alcoholics etc you name it. I am ashamed to admit it but I was. Until this girl walked into my life...

My ex boyfriend introduced LouLou to me at a BBQ and we instantly clicked. She is probably one of the very few people in my life who truly gets me.

I am not going to talk about her past life as it is her story to tell. However, when I was first introduced to her she was this new girl who I wanted to befriend. Lou makes me laugh. She is so supportive. She is a loving friend of whom I would be lost without. Seriously. She is my drinking buddy. She sends me some of the funniest texts. She adores her boyfriend to bits! She loves loads of music! She is there for me - always. She is successful and talented, even if she doesnt agree. I mean she did the make up for these models below after doing a hard cosmetic artistry course...and most importantly I am proud of her. I am proud that she has recovered from her past demons but even more proud that she changed my attitude.
Lou Lou if you ever read this I want you to know how thankful I am to you - for everything. I am always here for you -and I wouldnt want to be anywhere else! :)

She's a friend from out of the ordinary and I love her so much. She really has taught me that you cannot judge a human being, like everyone is, until you have walked in their shoes.


Colette said...

I love your posts so much Becca. I always get so excited when I notice in Google Reader you have a new one. You write more beautifully than you know.

I have to admit that I don’t have any sympathy for people who take drugs, I know that is an awful thing to say but that’s how I feel. I have sympathy for the issues that forced them to turn to drugs in the first place but once they start playing with fire then it’s hard for me. Mostly because everyone knows the risks.

One of my work friends Gareth takes recreational drugs, crazy amounts; I always tell him two things – 1) you must be pretty boring if you need drugs to have a good time, and 2) if something happens to you because of drugs I won’t cry for you.

I really admire that LouLou had the strength and the courage to walk away from her past. Her life will be so much richer for it, she’s an inspiration.

Suki said...

There was a pretty good quote what matched perfectly what I was about to say, but can't find it anymore. Never mind.
Certain people cross our paths, because we learn from each other some lessons about life and that's what makes them to the incredible friends they are!
If I find that quote, I'll let you know ;)

Alex(andra) said...

Such a great post. And I agree with you, completely. I've been trying to come to terms with judging people lately. It's amazing how much we all do it without realizing it. So now when I find myself judging someone by what they look like or what they're doing, I try to take a step back and realize that I do not know them, or their story, so I cannot judge.

My fiance's brother was a drug addict, and nearly killed himself on a drug trip. And since, he's completely turned his life around, finished college and is going to be a politician and a counselor at a rehabilitation center. I have so much respect for people who can turn their live around like that.. Just like LouLou. =)

Lauren said...

I have to say that I once thought the same as you about people who do drugs. When I was in high school I would hear about people doing these drugs and I never got it, I always looked down on them. I really couldn't understand the reasons for it because in my mind there really isn't any excuse ever to turn to drugs, there is always another way to get around it.

I thought this way until I found out my cousin, who I was extremely close to all during Jr. High and High School, was doing drugs. I didn't find out because she told me but because she was stupid enough to post pictures on facebook of her doing it. She still hasn't directly told me but she knows I know. I mainly find out about what she does through my younger sister because my cousin knows how much I hate the stuff.

I have realized that it's not the dirty, bad off, stereotypical people who do drugs. My cousin is incredibly smart but chooses to do dumb things. I know she isn't addicted she only does it occasionally but because someone I know has done drugs, it has definitely changed my perspective on the issue.

I really like your post, great topic. I had actually started one about the same thing having to do with my cousin but couldn't find the right words to get my point across, you have done it way better that I could of!

Christina Thomas said...

Good post! Recently, so many of my old classmates have passed on due to addiction and they have left behind loving family members. We will never know what they go through and how bad they are actually hurting inside.

Brittany said...

Becca, HURRAY for you! It is so easy to pass judgment on people we don't even known (I plead guilty as charged!)It can be so hard sometimes to put our pre-concieved notions aside, but when we do we can meet some amazing people! You GO GIRL! :)

Samantha said...

You are the kind of friend EVERYONE needs.
Happy May Day, I love that I have an England bound blogger I can share the holidays with!!

I do what I want! said...

I love this story! I too have learned this lesson with some people...some people that I at first judged the most have become my closest friends and I can't imagine my life without them!
She is lucky to have you in her life!

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